If, 'You do not understand my silence

If, 'You do not understand my silence; You will not understand my words'

In any relationship many time the communication/usage of words, most of the time misunderstood,especially in a love relationship / friendship or among husband and wife.The words are powerful in other way around.Instead of expressing your true feelings. it will kill the message by wrong words.In many case's the silence is persu...asive.

The silence is 'Intended or having the power to induce action or belief'.if one doesn't understand your silence you can not make the deaf person to hear.

When the individual is stress more by using words to make the partner to understand, its seems difficult..As the words are become powerless.But the mere truth can.The truth will penetrate the other person heart and make them understand.if truth is missing in a love relationship,it is difficult.The communication will be lost even with your most beloved person whom you think is the most precious than your life.Then what is the point of using gimmicks of words!!.More importantly when the other person is too much engaged mentally just stop communicating..give him/her enough space&time to settle on his/her own.Just be aside and silently support them to become cool.

When you are truthful and full of love..that's enough.your beloved person may misunderstand but they will come back after realizing what you are.That's why i said truth penetrate..truth is like a sharp edged knife you have to handle with care..because many people won't have experience with truth, as its hurts so hard.if your friend or lover is doing injustice or innumerable lie's with you,just absorb it peacefully...i know it is difficult, but still, no other way.because you start pointing out their lies many is not courageous to accept their pseudo reality... when you absorb other persons lies and still you continue your true- cordial-relationship and support the other person whatever they do.. because the true moral support can change a person character.It is like the mother who show unconditional love to her kids even when they do blunder,as the child grow they themselves align by realizing the mothers affection.So, we to adapt this mother care with our partner,sooner or latter they will realize/understand your greatness.After all, in life no one can be perfect except the dead person.

There is a point come, when you are able to really merge with your loved one...what ever they do, they convey the truth with you.it may not just through words, but in action or non-verbal communication.When this cordial relationship happens, from there on the beauty of love blossoms..one can not contain without the other person,the heart beat in a rhythm.Here, not much of words usage is required but, a silence celebration of life that flows.Let this happen unto each one of you....

Happy week end.

Love,
Ramani.G

What is the reasons for misunderstanding ?

" The reason is we look at people as we are;
Not as they are!! ".

Misunderstanding is nothing but, simply the understanding/communication is lost between two persons/group's.

What is understanding ?
When there is a mutual respect or love is lost between people the misunderstanding come in to picture.When a person is not keen in the other person he/she find everything is wrong in that person...

The prejudice is the other major fact that cause many misunderstandings even among beloved people.Among couple/friend or family.

What is this prejudice?
It is an adverse judgement or opinion formed beforehand without good justification.

For example:- The husband about to say something to the wife,the wife not even ready to listen to him and made a full stop..same with the wife...wise versa.

We judge people just like that...
just carrying the past and we not even bother many times, what the other person are right now..Any person can change into anything anytime.

A killer may turn to mahatma or a mahatma can turn to a killer any moment...We don't know what the life is going to offer the next second!!

In a nutshell, when the love,affection,friendship/Rela​ tionship is missing, there tend to be a misunderstanding and that lead to many problems.So love all and nurture a good relationship with everyone as you can.If you happen to meet acquaintance just maintain courtship!!

its very simple, keep all your mind focused without prejudice when the other person is conversant with you..if you happen to be busy just say..i am busy and we talk latter.When you keep your mind engaged and that hinders the communication and cause misunderstanding.

Many times, i have experienced when the other person is talking, when i was not in a mood/agreeable terms, what he was talking about... i used keep mum..Thinking that this silence is wise rather arguing!! but it is not so.Your silence also can be Mis-interpreted and lead to misunderstandings.So understanding needs lot of subtle qualities.

I don't know how many of you understand what i am saying here or misunderstanding me??.. Any way i learned little about understanding the misunderstanding while writing this.

Have a nice understanding week end.

Richness

" Richness is not earning more,spending more or Saving more"
" The real RICHNESS is ; When you need no more"

Every one, out there in the world chasing after money and making all our attempts to gain so much money!! Thinking that one day we will have all richness and enjoy life..That one day is never going to come.
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The intention of making money is to enjoy or celebrate life.But we are so much pre-occupied with the money. only the obsession of making money remaining with us and that make us to do, so many works to achieve the richness.We jump from one to another company for better salary...however you jump and how much ever one may get more salary is not enough.As the inflow raises the outflow of money also subsequently raises.Slowly, slowly we become nothing but money making machines and there is no enjoyment in life.

Just remember one thing, there are so many kings came and gone..They had all richness,Still they were unable to conquer life with their richness.Making money and becoming rich is just one part of life..So, don't over do that...Because, you are going to attain nothing but miss the life here&now which is very short and so precious.

The Billgates,Infosys- Narayanmurthy etc they all made all the richness they wanted..in fact beyond their wants...Finally they gave up many of their wealth to charity.It means they want something else than money...!!Just assume that how much effort they made to attain that richness and simply give up that to a charity? Think about it. That is Life.The quality of living is more important than only accumulating wealth.

Richness or Wealth has meaning when you are there to enjoy and celebrate your life.There is a point in everyone's life comes, when you want no more; Then life happens.One will find meaning of richness...' Richness is not just the material wealth but it is more of the 'INNER RICHNESS'.That comes to one when one want no more.

SEED

"Yesterday's failures are today's seeds
that must be diligently planted to be
able to abundantly harvest
tomorrow's successes."

We often hear "The failure is the step stone for SUCCESSES" but, when it come to a practical life situation, we simply fed up after encountered a small failure!!We simply give up what ever job we may do it. once we see the first attempt was not fruitful.

Is this the way one to give up the task??
No.

We must keep on doing...not just merely trying.We many time says to some one " I WILL TRY" when they ask us some help.

This word 'TRY' Has no meaning or depth in it.It is a word that come from the throat.The try never work out.When the next time, just be aware when you use this word 'i try'...instead change try and confidently say I will 'DO' it.You will really 'Do' it.

Our failure are also due to the cause of >' Lack of deep thoughts'.
Whatever one may do, Do it with full heart.Give all your attention to the work you may be involved in.Just imbibe deep thought within you and visualize as much as you can and that brings you so much capacity to stand alone and win at last.

When you think deep you will come to know the DO's and DON'T's.When you avoid the DON'T's that save lot of your time& energy.This itself clear your path towards success.

Be A sculpture

"A Stone is broken by the last stroke,This does not mean first stroke was useless."

Success is a result of consistent /continuous effort.It only comes to those who has the will to see the end.

Just imagine a Sculpture, who make sculpture out of the raw stone need to put so much efforts to break the hard stone.He/She has to give hard st...roke to the axe by the hammer... than only , he/she can remove the un-wanted parts of the stone and finally he/she brings out the sculpture as per the desired objects.But, in the process...so much consistent effort is needed to bring out the best out of the raw stone.

The sculpture is no where, but within the stone itself.
The ordinary eye can not see that.Only the sculpture can penetrate and see the sculpture within it..He just do nothing but removing the unwanted parts of the stone and that make the stone to worshiping idols in our temple.This is what makes things ordinary to ex ordinary.

What ever work one may do, is not so important.But the involvement and the consistent effort only make one to underline their presence in their field.They may set a trend for others to follow.Just remove the hurdles out, that hinders your path of success.Just adapt the skills from a sculpture,how he identify and remove the unwanted stone and make it adorable one.

'FEAR'

‎'The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failure'.

In Life we fear for anything (or) everything.There are few among us always carry the fear with them, as an under-current.It flows in and out, no reason they fear.It may be the fear of death or fear of insecurity.

The fear that act as a hurdle and dose'n't allow one to live compl...etely.If you are preparing for your exam/interview you fear and that give a congestion for your thought process.A relaxed mind is the mind of the creator and one can do many hard things just like that.

When one is in fear his mind refuse to think even a simple thing.The clarity will be lost. if, one is tensed up!!. As the fear moulds like a clouds around your mind. One may not able to see things clearly.because the mind eyes are closed. Hence, the fear crippled in.Life, we need to live as it comes and face anything on its way.

"Accepting life as it is without fear is the greatest gift one can own.

So be happy without fear and let life happen unto you."

Love is Conditional or Un-Conditional?

I thank God, sent you to me,For you and I were meant to be friends.

We have a bond too strong to break,We have a love no one can take.

In you, I have found a love so true; my heart is filled with love for you.

Every time I see you, my heart skips a beat,

In fact it beats new rhythm which never happened before

you make my life whole, you make my life complete.

My love for you grows more with each passing day,

The thought of your gorgeous face takes my breath away.

Those brown eyes fill my soul with happiness,

When I see there is a person who understands me well..

The feeling itself, that make me blissful;

you are there to care for me.

The day we start pouring our hearts is the happiest day of my life.

Even thinking of that day makes me smile,

I can't wait 'till I walk down that aisle.

The feeling of love, that makes one to undergo so many changes,the body,mind& the soul.The whole system that functions differently.A kind of feverish or excitement/ecstasy that flows unto the being.

how to name it?

The mind never labeled or de-coded this kind of feelings before.It is something new that flows into each fibre of the body and pulsate with cheers.The hunger is almost gone,the appetite seems to change.May be in the future,The Nano sceientist can do some reaserch on this...what is happening to our gene when one undergo love.The love that may alter the genome code, if one is so involved and imbibed.

Love is happening it is not bound to any condition like age,race,caste,religion etc.It is simply attuning of the two souls that longing to merge.They say love is blind. i dont think so,as for as i know 'love is un-conditional'.It dosen't expect anything from the other person and accepting the other person as it is.Thats why the lovers feel very warm in the presence of their beloved.They may be strange to each other a day before, and the day after, they feel one as if they lived together for many generations.The nature designs of human beings in such a way that, no one can escape or act in the hands of love.It is totally un-expressable.

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It is like some one try to fill the ocean water to a small hole digged on the ground with a little spoon!!.It is almost impossible to descripe, and here this fool tries ..

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Post effect

Love is the begining but the changes it brings in the individual is really metamorphosis.How the coal become a dimond?, it is that kind of transformation.The graphite(coal) and dimond are the same when you see its atomic structure but the quality of both are totally opposite to one another. One is so soft ; other is very hard. Infact the hardest substance on earth.It is a kind of 'ALCHEMY" the baser metal become gold.

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'Love has that much energy that alter one's quality to a different plane altogether'.

One of the experiences i like to share here is....

When i am Physically&Mentally tired and exhausted and about to sleep...when my eye brows has no enrgy to keep the shutter open,its about to fall in sleep , your thoughts flashes and awaken my heart, and dont know where i will gain the energy instantly from...whole my body is ready to jump or dive into the ocean of love.The thoughts continues and the sleep go's out of reach.It is a journey to the unknown destination, still it gives so much thrill. Each passing moments is something of new which i have never seen.(may be ignored all these time).The sea produce waves all the time but who has time to watch/witness!! only the lovers has time to witness the waves that comes and goes...that too it is that lovely when you watch in a full moon day. Each wave is unique, when you closely observe it . Just be a wave watcher for a while. your body takes different rhythm,you may notices many subtle feelings that surfaces from within you.