Friday, December 23, 2011



One of the loveliest birds on the earth.
When ever i see a peacock face to face a kind of deep love arises in me..I just love this bird for no reason.Love to watch and take photos...That too in a sunny day it looks majestic.

I always feel like having a peacock at home and spend my time with her..But my compassion also stop doing so.Because, it is so beautiful, when it lives in its freedom and grow along with its preferred natural environment.Though it can be pet..but still, it is so beautiful, when it dance just before the rain comes..What a awesome feathers it has..The bottle ink blue colors really nourishes ones heart just by seeing.We gave great privilege to this peacock.It is the National bird of India.The peacock also considered the pet of Lord Subramanya.(son of Siva)

During my schooldays i happen to be there a place name called 'ETTAYAPURAM' near Tutucourin(Birth place of Barathi).There in the paddy field one can find hundreds of peacock together..I don't think anywhere else you can see in this huge numbers!!

My tender childhood memory still persist...
we used to preserve this peacock feathers in between books pages and open book often and see everyday weather its grown up!! we also see, as if it give birth(Kutti potrukka!!) and the feathers is fragile and it broken and we see etc nos and thing that its produced some more!! what a funny days!!

Let us show love to this bird and protect it and grow it more and more.

i do think why peacock is the pet animal of Lord Muruga!!The Mythology might have some purpose. This peacock is a very soft/passive in nature and the people may easily harm this bird. so may be for that reasons the myth added, it is the pet of lord.So people may not attack ; rather love this bird.The hidden meaning could be this!! What you say?

LOVE is a TIP of an ice berg


'The Tip of the iceberg' - often used to narrate something which is hidden massive underneath.The iceberg usually float in ocean water and the sailors while sailing the ship can see only the TIP of an iceberg that is visible above the surface of the water..many time they misjudge this iceberg size by seeing its outer tip and think that they can hit it and continue their sailing!!! But the TIP that was visible is not a small is of course a massive iceberg like a rock, that even can damage the big-ship and cause accident.The picture shown here reflect the same.

LOVE is also like this..When a person come and say unto you they are in love with you...many among us used misjudge this love by judging their appearance or status.The wife love the husband or the husband love the wife vice verse...the love is one of the most toughest thing, which can't be expressed as it is.LOVE is totally a private thing,it is the part of one's inner world.only the person who is love knew the depth of it.His/Her heart only feel how deep it is.When they express it to their beloved person they can feel only the same, when their heart also beat in the same rhythm. Or the communication of love will be lost..Let it be any kissing,hugging or by will lead no where.

So,next time when you encounter someone, who express their love unto you..Just don't see their outer look etc..look deep into their eyes& heart and try to see the whole of their love.Once you feel, your heart also start commune then accept it.Love is mere feeling of the heart and it can only decoded by another heart.It is a kind of expressing the un-expressible like truth.Do not apply your mind...but use your heart.Then you can sail smooth even in a storm(the fights between couple).There will be no hurdle on the path.No need to hit the rock and damage yourself.

In today's world the love often mis-communicated because of the modern communication like FB,Sms,mail etc.When you send some verbal messages that word can not carry all your feeling of love as it is.It is the mere tuning of hearts...let your heart speak to another heart..and let it attune.

Have a good day..Love all and Hate none.

Saturday, October 29, 2011

Love In Relationship

I wish all you must read though it bit long...but one can value the Love in relationship...The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

Married or not… you should read this.

“When I got home that night as wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

Money Vs Love

Money Vs Love:-

There are people who run behind someone in the name of LOVE...But their whole intention is not love.They choose some one who has money.This picture shown rightly the money weight higher than love.But the fact is , it is not true love.

The true love never conditioned with money.
... ... Be alert when some one says i love you...look deep what is their intentions are...they love your money or you.Just distinguish.Do not get fooled by the fake love.There are people who chase money rather than love and thy make you sick when they find some one who has better revenue than you.They say "the money sleep with anyone; it change purse to purse often.". So do these people are.They need your body(anybody) or your money not you or your love.they are not worth or can not afford love.

If, some one says unto you, i want to live under your feet and can not leave you even a second...That means they are smarter and try to fool you by these catching words and they might use the same words with many.They are modern bitches available every where.They just want to use you.Don't get induced by their make up's..It is a kind of seduction with seducing word.

In my many counseling sessions,
i have encountered people who faced this kind of pain..i have no words to console them.Here let this post work as a prevention rather a cure.Be alert of these whores.

Tuesday, September 27, 2011


Love is the purest experience of the individual and how ever one try to explain the love to others it will be mis-spelled.because Love is totally a a private feeling of the experiencer.Here many time the experience and the experiencer became one.If the other person misunderstood your love that's normal and no complaints about it..but your own lover mistook it!! Assume the situation.but it happens.

There is no single book in the world that can teach you all about love.Your own heart pulse is your encyclopedia for your love.Love can be felt at heart.When this heart center mismatch and people start using mind the love will be lost.

Here is a situation for the shake of love when one stop/limit communication with the lover to avoid mis-communication how painful it is!! In real life there are situation that force you to do so.When one want to cry out but he can not cry how it will be!! The tears that produced by the glands can not be suppressed inside the eye's.The eye's can not hold it.It has to flow out.Same way the feeling of love can not be has to be expressed at least to the lover.But ,when one encounter a situation in life, where he can not talk or meet his lover ,what a pain that give to the person!! it is such a pain one can not tolerate as if the heart bleeds and stop its all function.I even wish my enemy should not undergo this pain.The whole body,mind and spirit of the person will collapse.It is a kind of hell.One can not eat food and so much physiological&psychological changes that reverse one whole personality.It is the worst pain that love offer unto anyone.It is such a may go out of control.

if, you ask any one love is pleasure or pain what will be the answer??
The majority says its a pleasure but in real life the pleasure is very short while.Once the honeymoon is over the pleasure ends and the pains pop's out..even then the pleasure of the past , may be it is short while, that make one to recall and re-live it in memory ...just by tolerating the pain on the background.

Hate and Love only complete the cycle of love.Love can not exit without hate.One complement the other.

All, i need to say is, In life , one can not exist without love.Love is the vital force that flow in and out of one's being one or the other way.This only make one to give up love for the shake of lover.Once done this sacrifice,the person live a life on his/her own prison.The wound can not be healed.The love expands slowly to the other beings as it can not be put inside.When one caught in love he/she can not content themselves without expressing it outside like a tears or artisan.The more one try to suppress the more it flow out with vigor force outside like a artisan falls that flow out from the earth.

Friday, August 19, 2011

If, 'You do not understand my silence

If, 'You do not understand my silence; You will not understand my words'

In any relationship many time the communication/usage of words, most of the time misunderstood,especially in a love relationship / friendship or among husband and wife.The words are powerful in other way around.Instead of expressing your true feelings. it will kill the message by wrong words.In many case's the silence is persu...asive.

The silence is 'Intended or having the power to induce action or belief'.if one doesn't understand your silence you can not make the deaf person to hear.

When the individual is stress more by using words to make the partner to understand, its seems difficult..As the words are become powerless.But the mere truth can.The truth will penetrate the other person heart and make them understand.if truth is missing in a love relationship,it is difficult.The communication will be lost even with your most beloved person whom you think is the most precious than your life.Then what is the point of using gimmicks of words!!.More importantly when the other person is too much engaged mentally just stop communicating..give him/her enough space&time to settle on his/her own.Just be aside and silently support them to become cool.

When you are truthful and full of love..that's enough.your beloved person may misunderstand but they will come back after realizing what you are.That's why i said truth penetrate..truth is like a sharp edged knife you have to handle with care..because many people won't have experience with truth, as its hurts so hard.if your friend or lover is doing injustice or innumerable lie's with you,just absorb it peacefully...i know it is difficult, but still, no other way.because you start pointing out their lies many is not courageous to accept their pseudo reality... when you absorb other persons lies and still you continue your true- cordial-relationship and support the other person whatever they do.. because the true moral support can change a person character.It is like the mother who show unconditional love to her kids even when they do blunder,as the child grow they themselves align by realizing the mothers affection.So, we to adapt this mother care with our partner,sooner or latter they will realize/understand your greatness.After all, in life no one can be perfect except the dead person.

There is a point come, when you are able to really merge with your loved one...what ever they do, they convey the truth with may not just through words, but in action or non-verbal communication.When this cordial relationship happens, from there on the beauty of love can not contain without the other person,the heart beat in a rhythm.Here, not much of words usage is required but, a silence celebration of life that flows.Let this happen unto each one of you....

Happy week end.


Friday, August 5, 2011

What is the reasons for misunderstanding ?

" The reason is we look at people as we are;
Not as they are!! ".

Misunderstanding is nothing but, simply the understanding/communication is lost between two persons/group's.

What is understanding ?
When there is a mutual respect or love is lost between people the misunderstanding come in to picture.When a person is not keen in the other person he/she find everything is wrong in that person...

The prejudice is the other major fact that cause many misunderstandings even among beloved people.Among couple/friend or family.

What is this prejudice?
It is an adverse judgement or opinion formed beforehand without good justification.

For example:- The husband about to say something to the wife,the wife not even ready to listen to him and made a full stop..same with the wife...wise versa.

We judge people just like that...
just carrying the past and we not even bother many times, what the other person are right now..Any person can change into anything anytime.

A killer may turn to mahatma or a mahatma can turn to a killer any moment...We don't know what the life is going to offer the next second!!

In a nutshell, when the love,affection,friendship/Rela​ tionship is missing, there tend to be a misunderstanding and that lead to many problems.So love all and nurture a good relationship with everyone as you can.If you happen to meet acquaintance just maintain courtship!!

its very simple, keep all your mind focused without prejudice when the other person is conversant with you..if you happen to be busy just say..i am busy and we talk latter.When you keep your mind engaged and that hinders the communication and cause misunderstanding.

Many times, i have experienced when the other person is talking, when i was not in a mood/agreeable terms, what he was talking about... i used keep mum..Thinking that this silence is wise rather arguing!! but it is not so.Your silence also can be Mis-interpreted and lead to misunderstandings.So understanding needs lot of subtle qualities.

I don't know how many of you understand what i am saying here or misunderstanding me??.. Any way i learned little about understanding the misunderstanding while writing this.

Have a nice understanding week end.