If, 'You do not understand my silence

If, 'You do not understand my silence; You will not understand my words'

In any relationship many time the communication/usage of words, most of the time misunderstood,especially in a love relationship / friendship or among husband and wife.The words are powerful in other way around.Instead of expressing your true feelings. it will kill the message by wrong words.In many case's the silence is persu...asive.

The silence is 'Intended or having the power to induce action or belief'.if one doesn't understand your silence you can not make the deaf person to hear.

When the individual is stress more by using words to make the partner to understand, its seems difficult..As the words are become powerless.But the mere truth can.The truth will penetrate the other person heart and make them understand.if truth is missing in a love relationship,it is difficult.The communication will be lost even with your most beloved person whom you think is the most precious than your life.Then what is the point of using gimmicks of words!!.More importantly when the other person is too much engaged mentally just stop communicating..give him/her enough space&time to settle on his/her own.Just be aside and silently support them to become cool.

When you are truthful and full of love..that's enough.your beloved person may misunderstand but they will come back after realizing what you are.That's why i said truth penetrate..truth is like a sharp edged knife you have to handle with care..because many people won't have experience with truth, as its hurts so hard.if your friend or lover is doing injustice or innumerable lie's with you,just absorb it peacefully...i know it is difficult, but still, no other way.because you start pointing out their lies many is not courageous to accept their pseudo reality... when you absorb other persons lies and still you continue your true- cordial-relationship and support the other person whatever they do.. because the true moral support can change a person character.It is like the mother who show unconditional love to her kids even when they do blunder,as the child grow they themselves align by realizing the mothers affection.So, we to adapt this mother care with our partner,sooner or latter they will realize/understand your greatness.After all, in life no one can be perfect except the dead person.

There is a point come, when you are able to really merge with your loved one...what ever they do, they convey the truth with you.it may not just through words, but in action or non-verbal communication.When this cordial relationship happens, from there on the beauty of love blossoms..one can not contain without the other person,the heart beat in a rhythm.Here, not much of words usage is required but, a silence celebration of life that flows.Let this happen unto each one of you....

Happy week end.

Love,
Ramani.G

Be A sculpture

"A Stone is broken by the last stroke,This does not mean first stroke was useless."

Success is a result of consistent /continuous effort.It only comes to those who has the will to see the end.

Just imagine a Sculpture, who make sculpture out of the raw stone need to put so much efforts to break the hard stone.He/She has to give hard st...roke to the axe by the hammer... than only , he/she can remove the un-wanted parts of the stone and finally he/she brings out the sculpture as per the desired objects.But, in the process...so much consistent effort is needed to bring out the best out of the raw stone.

The sculpture is no where, but within the stone itself.
The ordinary eye can not see that.Only the sculpture can penetrate and see the sculpture within it..He just do nothing but removing the unwanted parts of the stone and that make the stone to worshiping idols in our temple.This is what makes things ordinary to ex ordinary.

What ever work one may do, is not so important.But the involvement and the consistent effort only make one to underline their presence in their field.They may set a trend for others to follow.Just remove the hurdles out, that hinders your path of success.Just adapt the skills from a sculpture,how he identify and remove the unwanted stone and make it adorable one.

THOUGHTS

Beautiful moments of the Past that Enrich us today and ever,as we recall.

Life's Beautiful moments that drew great people briefly..

It was probably the April of 1974. Bangalore was getting warm and Gulmohars were blooming at the IISc campus. I was the only girl in my postgraduate department and was staying at the ladies’ hostel. Other girls were pursuing research in different departments of Science.I was looking forward to going abroad to complete a doctorate in Computer science. I had been offered scholarships from Universities in the US . I had not thought of taking up a job in India .One day, while on the way to my hostel from our lecture-hall complex, I Saw an advertisement on the notice board. It was a standard job-requirement notice from the famous automobile company Telco (now Tata Motors). It stated that the company required young, bright engineers, hardworking and with an excellent academic background, etc.At the bottom was a small line: “Lady candidates need not apply.”I read it and was very upset. For the first time in my life I was up against gender discrimination.Though I was not keen on taking up the job, I saw it as a challenge. I Had done extremely well in academics, better than most of my male peers. Little did I know then that in real life academic excellence is not enough to be successful.After reading the notice I went fuming to my room. I decided to inform The topmost person in Telco’s management about the injustice the company was perpetrating. I got a postcard and started to write, but there was a problem: I did not know who headed Telco.I thought it must be one of the Tatas. I knew JRD Tata was the head of The Tata Group; I had seen his pictures in newspapers actually, Sumant Moolgaokar was the company’s chairman then). I took the card, addressed It to JRD and started writing. To this day I remember clearly what I wrote.“The great Tatas have always been pioneers. They are the people who Started the basic infrastructure industries in India , such as iron and steel, chemicals, textiles and locomotives. They have cared for higher Education in India since 1900 and they were responsible for the establishment of the Indian Institute of Science. Fortunately, I study there. But I am surprised how a company such as Telco is discriminating on the basis of gender.”I posted the letter and forgot about it. Less than 10 days later, I received a telegram stating that I had to appear for an interview at Telco’s Pune facility at the company’s expense. I was taken aback by the telegram. My hostel mate told me I should use the opportunity to go to Pune free of cost and buy them the famous Pune saris for cheap! I collected Rs 30 each from everyone who wanted a sari. When I look back, I feel like laughing at the reasons for my going, but back then they seemed good enough to make the trip.It was my first visit to Pune and I immediately fell in love with the city.

To this day it remains dear to me. I feel as much at home in Pune as I do in Hubli, my hometown. The place changed my life in so many ways. As directed, I went to Telco’s Pimpri office for the interview.There were six people on the panel and I realised then that this was serious business.“This is the girl who wrote to JRD,” I heard somebody whisper as soon as I entered the room. By then I knew for sure that I would not get the job.The realisation abolished all fear from my mind, so I was rather cool while The interview was being conducted.Even before the interview started, I reckoned the panel was biased, so I told them, rather impolitely, “I hope this is only a technical interview.”They were taken aback by my rudeness, and even today I am ashamed about My attitude. The panel asked me technical questions and I answered all of them.Then an elderly gentleman with an affectionate voice told me, “Do you Know why we said lady candidates need not apply? The reason is that we have never employed any ladies on the shop floor. This is not a co-ed college; this is a factory. When it comes to academics, you are a first ranker throughout. We appreciate that, but people like you should work in research laboratories. “I was a young girl from small-town Hubli. My world had been a limited place. I did not know the ways of large corporate houses and their difficulties, so I answered, “But you must start somewhere, otherwise no woman will ever be able to work in your factories.”Finally, after a long interview, I was told I had been successful. So This was what the future had in store for me. Never had I thought I would Take up a job in Pune. I met a shy young man from Karnataka there, we became good friends and we got married. It was only after joining Telco that I realized who JRD was: the Uncrowned king of Indian industry. Now I was scared, but I did not get to meet him till I was transferred to Bombay .

One day I had to show some reports to Mr Moolgaokar, our chairman, who we all knew as SM. I was in his office on The first floor of Bombay House (the Tata headquarters) when, suddenly JRD walked in. That was the first time I saw “appro JRD”. Appro means “our” in Gujarati. This was the affectionate term by which people at Bombay House called him.I was feeling very nervous, remembering my postcard episode. SM Introduced me nicely, “Jeh (that’s what his close associates called him), this Young woman is an engineer and that too a postgraduate.She is the first woman to work on the Telco shop floor.” JRD looked at me . I was praying he would not ask me any questions about my interview (or the postcard that preceded it).Thankfully, he didn’t. Instead, he remarked. “It is nice that girls are getting into engineering in our country. By the way, what is your name?”“When I joined Telco I was Sudha Kulkarni, Sir,” I replied. “Now I am Sudha Murthy.” He smiled a kindly smile and started a discussion with SM. As for me, I almost ran out of the room.

After that I used to see JRD on and off. He was the Tata Group chairman And I was merely an engineer. There was nothing that we had in common. I was In awe of him.One day I was waiting for Murthy, my husband, to pick me up after office hours. To my surprise I saw JRD standing next to me. I did not know how to react. Yet again I started worrying about that postcard. Looking back, I realise JRD had forgotten about it. It must have been a small incident for him, but not so for me.“Young lady, why are you here?” he asked. “Office time is over.” I said, “Sir, I’m waiting for my husband to come and pick me up.” JRD said, “It Is getting dark and there’s no one in the corridor.I’ll wait with you till your husband comes.”I was quite used to waiting for Murthy, but having JRD waiting alongside made me extremely uncomfortable.I was nervous. Out of the corner of my eye I looked at him. He wore a simple white pant and shirt. He was old, yet his face was glowing. There wasn’t any air of superiority about him. I was thinking, “Look at this person. He is a chairman, a well-respected man in our country and he is waiting for the sake of an ordinary employee.” Then I saw Murthy and I rushed out. JRD called and said, “Young lady, Tell your husband never to make his wife wait again.” In 1982 I had to resign from my job at Telco. I was reluctant to go, but I really did not have a choice. I was coming down the steps of Bombay House after wrapping up my final settlement when I saw JRD coming up. He was absorbed in thought. I wanted to say goodbye to him, so I stopped. He saw me and paused. Gently, he said, “So what are you doing, Mrs Kulkarni?” (That was the Way he always addressed me.) “Sir, I am leaving Telco.” “Where are you going?” he asked. “Pune, Sir. My husband is starting a company called Infosys and I’m shifting to Pune.”“Oh! And what will you do when you are successful.”“Sir, I don’t know whether we will be successful.”“Never start with diffidence,” he advised me. “Always start with confidence. When you are successful you must give back to society. Society gives us so much; we must reciprocate. I wish you all the best.”Then JRD continued walking up the stairs. I stood there for what seemed like a millennium. That was the last time I saw him alive. Many years later I met Ratan Tata in the same Bombay House, occupying the chair JRD once did. I told him of my many sweet memories of working with Telco. Later, he wrote to me, “It was nice hearing about Jeh from you. The sad part is that he’s not alive to see you today.”I consider JRD a great man because, despite being an extremely busy person, he valued one postcard written by a young girl seeking justice. He must have received thousands of letters everyday. He could have thrown mine away, but he didn’t do that. He respected the intentions of that unknown girl, who had neither influence nor money, and gave her an opportunity in his company. He did not merely give her a job; he changed her life and mindset forever.Close to 50 per cent of the students in today’s engineering colleges are girls. And there are women on the shop floor in many industry segments. I see these changes and I think of JRD. If at all time stops and asks me What I want from life, I would say I wish JRD were alive today to see how the company we started has grown. He would have enjoyed it wholeheartedly.My love and respect for the House of Tata remains undiminished by the passage of time. I always looked up to JRD. I saw him as a role model for his simplicity, his generosity, his kindness and the care he took of his employees. Those blue eyes always reminded me of the sky; they had the same vastness and magnificence.(Sudha Murthy is a widely published writer and chairperson of the Infosys Foundation involved in a number of social development initiatives. Infosys chairman Narayana Murthy is her husband.)(On JRD's death on Nov 29, 1993, the parliament, in an unusual gesture for a private citizen, was adjourned in his memory and Maharashtra declared three days of mourning.)Article sourced from: Lasting Legacies (Tata Review- SpecialCommemorative Issue 2004), brought out by the house of Tatas tocommemorate the 100th birth anniversary of JRD Tata on July 29, 2004.]

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A Nice Article about Love
This article was written by Swami Vivekananda

I once had a friend who grew to be very close to me.

Once when we were sitting at the edge of a swimming pool,

she filled the palm of her hand with some water and held it before me,

and said this: "You see this water carefully contained on my hand?

It symbolizes Love."

This was how I saw it: As long as you keep your hand caringly open

and allow it to remain there, it will always be there. However,

if you attempt to close your fingers round it and try to posses it,

it will spill through the first cracks it finds.

This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love...

they try to posses it, they demand, they expect...

and just like the water spilling out of your hand, love will retrieve from you .

For love is meant to be free, you cannot change its nature.

If there are people you love, allow them to be free beings.

Give and don't expect.

Advise, but don't order.

Ask, but never demand.

It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to truly practice.

It is the secret to true love.

To truly practice it, you must sincerely feel no expectations from those

who you love, and yet an unconditional caring.

"Passing thought...

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take;

but by the moments that take our breath away...

Life is beautiful!!! Live it !!!