If, 'You do not understand my silence

If, 'You do not understand my silence; You will not understand my words'

In any relationship many time the communication/usage of words, most of the time misunderstood,especially in a love relationship / friendship or among husband and wife.The words are powerful in other way around.Instead of expressing your true feelings. it will kill the message by wrong words.In many case's the silence is persu...asive.

The silence is 'Intended or having the power to induce action or belief'.if one doesn't understand your silence you can not make the deaf person to hear.

When the individual is stress more by using words to make the partner to understand, its seems difficult..As the words are become powerless.But the mere truth can.The truth will penetrate the other person heart and make them understand.if truth is missing in a love relationship,it is difficult.The communication will be lost even with your most beloved person whom you think is the most precious than your life.Then what is the point of using gimmicks of words!!.More importantly when the other person is too much engaged mentally just stop communicating..give him/her enough space&time to settle on his/her own.Just be aside and silently support them to become cool.

When you are truthful and full of love..that's enough.your beloved person may misunderstand but they will come back after realizing what you are.That's why i said truth penetrate..truth is like a sharp edged knife you have to handle with care..because many people won't have experience with truth, as its hurts so hard.if your friend or lover is doing injustice or innumerable lie's with you,just absorb it peacefully...i know it is difficult, but still, no other way.because you start pointing out their lies many is not courageous to accept their pseudo reality... when you absorb other persons lies and still you continue your true- cordial-relationship and support the other person whatever they do.. because the true moral support can change a person character.It is like the mother who show unconditional love to her kids even when they do blunder,as the child grow they themselves align by realizing the mothers affection.So, we to adapt this mother care with our partner,sooner or latter they will realize/understand your greatness.After all, in life no one can be perfect except the dead person.

There is a point come, when you are able to really merge with your loved one...what ever they do, they convey the truth with you.it may not just through words, but in action or non-verbal communication.When this cordial relationship happens, from there on the beauty of love blossoms..one can not contain without the other person,the heart beat in a rhythm.Here, not much of words usage is required but, a silence celebration of life that flows.Let this happen unto each one of you....

Happy week end.

Love,
Ramani.G

What is the reasons for misunderstanding ?

" The reason is we look at people as we are;
Not as they are!! ".

Misunderstanding is nothing but, simply the understanding/communication is lost between two persons/group's.

What is understanding ?
When there is a mutual respect or love is lost between people the misunderstanding come in to picture.When a person is not keen in the other person he/she find everything is wrong in that person...

The prejudice is the other major fact that cause many misunderstandings even among beloved people.Among couple/friend or family.

What is this prejudice?
It is an adverse judgement or opinion formed beforehand without good justification.

For example:- The husband about to say something to the wife,the wife not even ready to listen to him and made a full stop..same with the wife...wise versa.

We judge people just like that...
just carrying the past and we not even bother many times, what the other person are right now..Any person can change into anything anytime.

A killer may turn to mahatma or a mahatma can turn to a killer any moment...We don't know what the life is going to offer the next second!!

In a nutshell, when the love,affection,friendship/Rela​ tionship is missing, there tend to be a misunderstanding and that lead to many problems.So love all and nurture a good relationship with everyone as you can.If you happen to meet acquaintance just maintain courtship!!

its very simple, keep all your mind focused without prejudice when the other person is conversant with you..if you happen to be busy just say..i am busy and we talk latter.When you keep your mind engaged and that hinders the communication and cause misunderstanding.

Many times, i have experienced when the other person is talking, when i was not in a mood/agreeable terms, what he was talking about... i used keep mum..Thinking that this silence is wise rather arguing!! but it is not so.Your silence also can be Mis-interpreted and lead to misunderstandings.So understanding needs lot of subtle qualities.

I don't know how many of you understand what i am saying here or misunderstanding me??.. Any way i learned little about understanding the misunderstanding while writing this.

Have a nice understanding week end.